I think the question I am asked most by parents is “How can I set screen limits – that work?”
Sometimes the parents explain further in no uncertain terms: “How the hell do I get my kid away from that gaming console?” or “I want my iPad back and I’m sick of negotiating for it” or “If I have to scream one more time to get the kids out from in front of the TV and to the dinner table, I can not be held responsible for my actions.”
If any of those scenarios seem familiar to you, read on. I’m going to share some of the parenting tips that I have heard, read or implemented and hope that something resonates for you.
Screen Tickets: Give your child 2 tickets a day, each worth half an hour. Once they’ve cashed them in, that’s it. No more TV. No more tablet. No more gaming console. You define the rules for your tickets. Get creative, perhaps a yellow ticket for TV time; red ticket for tablet; green ticket for gaming...
I know what you're thinking: "But what a minute - she's been advocating screen limits for summer, extracurricular activities so the kids won't reach for their tech and now she wants them to play with apps?" No I haven't been out in the sun too long, but I do think that technology - in the right dosage - is a very good thing indeed.
So what about those educational apps?
If your kids are looking for a little time on the computer or tablet or smartphone, why not let them engage in an age-appropriate educational activity? They will think you are being super cool and laid-back about their screen limits, while you know that they are getting some much needed intellectual stimulation over the summer. And as the experts are keen to note, summer reading and learning activities help reduce the Summer Brain Drain.
Check out Common Sense Media's Summer Learning Guide which specifically breaks down different learning categories by age (2-7, 8-12, 13-17). Your child can Explore...
Your teenager is advancing to the next class level, life is good and summer is here. Pat yourself on the back and give your teen a high five.
Now before you start dancing that summer jig, thinking about frosty blue drinks with paper umbrellas in them (or my personal favorite, an icy glass of rosé), let’s quickly run over some summer tips for you - the super cool, up-to-date and safety-conscious digital parent of a teenager. Yes, I mean you!
It goes without saying that summer is an absolutely fantastic time and many teens slip into easy routines and may slack off a bit. Rules are less visible, life structure is more relaxed and your teen is just trying to recuperate after the school year. (You can remind them of these recuperative summers once they start working a real job.)
But until that high point, as a digital parent of a teen, you still have to help your teen navigate the digital highway – even during the summer months. To make things easier, I have...
I didn't stand in line to buy my Apple watch, but I admit that I ordered it online on the very first day. Almost 6 weeks later, I pulled it out of the gorgeous Apple box and I sighed with pleasure. The watch was fabulous looking.
But being an eSafety expert is serious business, so I shook off the giddy feelings and got to work with my burning question: Is the Apple watch safe for kids?
First technology is a tool. It can work for good and unfortunately it can be used for bad. Think of a kitchen knife or a pair of scissors. Good things to cut with, but dangerous in the wrong hands or with the wrong intent. Same thing for technology.
So let's take a peek at the Apple watch. It's definitely a tool. It's a watch for goodness sake. A very, ultra, über, super cool watch, but it's a watch. Beyond all the cool things that it can do (visit your local Apple dealer as I won't go into those details here), let's look at how the Apple watch can be used in the wrong...
The other day, I was walking with my sons when I gestured to a telephone booth and made some comment.
Imagine my surprise, when my 7 year old, looked at me with a perplexed expression on his face and asked, “Mommy, what’s a telephone booth?”
Aghast, I thought to myself – how could my sonnot know THE favorite clothes changing place of Superman? Or the phone booth / elevator at the end of the long corridor for Agent Maxwell Smart?
The answer came so swiftly, it was astonishing.
My son is a bonafide digital citizen. He has never used a telephone booth, because smartphones are EVERYWHERE. And he can swipe with the best of them.
He can toggle between screens.
He can find long-lost cartoon gems, such as Underdog, on a Youtube equipped ipad.
He can leap tall buildings in a single bound. Oops, got a bit carried away there, but you see my point.
Children today are superheroes and they can do some amazing things. But like every superhero, they...
What is the proper online etiquette or netiquette for posting pictures online of other people’s children?
This is a question I usually get as people head out on vacations (usually sun-filled vacations) as they take pictures of children, friends and family on the beach, in parcs, hanging out, and enjoying themselves. So, can you post pictures of other people's children?
Um, in a short answer. NO. But if you do, here is a quick checklist:
What do students think parents should know?
I asked one of my former international public law students to give her perspective on Internet and tell parents what SHE thinks they should know.
Here is what she said:
My name is Susanna and I am a 22 year-old living in San Francisco, CA. My generation was basically raised on social media. We were the first to experiment with Myspace and instant messaging online. I can recall back in 7th grade, creating various screennames because I could not just pick one. I remember I had to wait (not patiently I might add) until my parents made all the phone calls so that I could use our dial-up internet to chat with my friends. These were the days before it was common for a 7th grader to have a cellphone.
Needless to say, the world of social media has continued to grow across all age groups, demographics, and countries. Today, you can literally message or share a photo with someone across the globe in a matter of seconds. That’s the great...
Is it possible that children can be prosecuted as sex offenders in the UK and in the US for texting and sexting?
So just what is the issue and how can you best protect your teenager?
BACKGROUND: In a 2009 article from Pew Research Internet Project, sexting was defined as “the creating, sharing and forwarding of sexually suggestive nude or nearly nude images by minor teens.“ Sexting has evolved as the era of self-portrait photographs (selfies) has exploded and the term ‘selfie’ was named as one of the top buzzwords in 2012.
ISSUE: young teenage boys and girls are taken sexual photos of themselves (selfies) and then sexting them to others now could face prosecution for distributing indecent images of children and, if convicted have to sign a sex offender registry.
Last year, there was the case of a 17-year-old boy from Manassas County, Virginia who was being charged as a felon for sending sexually explicit videos to a 15-year-old girl. Stephen...
Vanessa is a working mother who uses her laptop and smartphone to conduct business when she’s at home. In between giving her children a bath and preparing dinner, she can often be found skimming her emails on her smartphone or checking the news alerts for updates impacting her business. If she is under a deadline, she may even set-up her laptop in the kitchen and work a bit while waiting to pull a roast out of the oven.
Vanessa thought she had a handle on it all, juggling work and home life in admirable fashion, until she overheard her children one evening:
“We can’t ask mom, she’s on the computer again.”
“She’s always working. She never wants to play with us.”
“Let’s hide her smartphone.”
And the guilt sets in.
. . .
You and I both know that Vanessa is by no means a bad mother. She is just like you and me, trying to make it all work. She reminds me of that Enjoli commercial from the 80’s: She’s...
What is a digital detox?
Basically a detox is just shutting down, turning off and stepping away from technology. A detox, just like a food detox, is a chance to give your body and mind a much needed break or short rest from overindulgence.
And let's face it: we all indulge in our technology.
So join me for a digital detox this weekend? Or if you can't manage a weekend, how about for the evening?
Too hard? Okay, try for just an hour. The benefits might surprise you.
Write to me at [email protected] and let me know how your own digital detox went or share your personal success tips.
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